Why Most Mindfulness Apps Fail to Heal — And the Cure You Didn’t Know About
First, a note from my heart
Before I even start, I want to let my readers know the reason I am writing this article is because I care. I care for your mental health, your spiritual health, and your purpose.
Mindfulness apps have taken the digital world by storm. Depending on where in the world you are reading this, if you meditate, the first question asked of you will be, “What app do you use?” And if you do not know what these apps are, I’ll ask you to come out from under the rock and check them out. On second thought, actually, if you’re blissfully unaware, just stay put.
I was speaking with one of the Fortune 500 company CEOs at CES earlier this year, and he said to me he doesn’t use the apps anymore. He said, “I have a Mindful Master, who guides me through my spiritual and life journey. These apps, they don’t work, man.” We had a good 15 minutes or so of conversation, and he patiently listened to my product ideas (not apps) and promised to help, which he has done in the past few months.
On the flight back to Toronto, I kept thinking (and researching) about the mindfulness industry. Below are my thoughts on why mindfulness apps work more for themselves than for the people who really need them. While I present my research and observations, I know there are people, albeit a minuscule number, who have told me, “Yes, they use it daily, and it works for them.” This article looks at the broader picture and calls out the industry for alluring customers with overstated marketing claims, misleading practices, and gamification. Let’s dive in to understand what really is going on under the hood.
Disconnect between Numbers and Feelings
Look, I genuinely believe that when founders embark on their ventures, they begin with noble intentions. However, once funding is introduced, the pressures of scaling, meeting quarterly results, ensuring ROI, and hitting targeted numbers take precedence. Over time, the board starts to view these numbers as genuine reflections of mindfulness among the populace. At this juncture, it seems the horse is sent to the barn, perhaps even forgotten, while the cart gets all the attention. For instance, the prevailing notion seems to be: the more content one consumes, the more mindful one becomes. Consequently, the apps continually introduce various meditation styles, celebrity narrations, and the like. Yet, this approach contrasts the very essence of mindfulness.
Superficial Engagement
Many users download mindfulness apps with the best intentions but struggle to weave them into a daily or even weekly routine. The initial enthusiasm often diminishes, resulting in sporadic use and, more often than not, abandonment. This inconsistency undermines the potential benefits of mindfulness, which typically demands regular practice. I’ve heard numerous modern influencers claim that you don’t need a designated space, incense, music, or any specific setting. They assert that you can meditate anywhere, anytime, even on the go, attributing life-changing results to a particular app.
The more content one consumes, The more Mindful one becomes. Really?
Promise of Judas
Mindfulness apps often tout quick solutions, such as “5-minute stress relief” sessions. While these can offer temporary relief, they don’t genuinely foster a deep engagement with the principles of mindfulness. The brevity and simplicity of such sessions can render the experience superficial, reducing the chances of reaping lasting mental health benefits.
Consider this: in the East, meditation and mindfulness have been ingrained in daily life for millennia. For instance, Patanjali outlined a step-by-step process of self-realization in the Yoga Sutras. Buddha discovered profound truths and lived in a specific manner, passing on those teachings. Meanwhile, app companies often cherry-pick one aspect, like mindfulness, without advocating for any lifestyle changes. They claim there’s no need to modify anything else in one’s life, promising enduring benefits from mindfulness alone. Additionally, if these apps utilize ML algorithms, they could, depending on the user’s needs and the algorithm’s design, cause harm in the long run.
The gravest danger of such misleading promises is that society might turn away from these time-tested methods, leaning instead towards quick fixes like drugs or supplements. Consider an analogy: someone suffering from a terminal illness seeks your help, and you offer them a sweet candy, claiming it’ll make them feel better. They might enjoy a fleeting moment of comfort, and they go home, only to return to you every day, for the sweet candy.
Achilles’ Blind Spot: The Void of Personalization
Mindfulness isn’t a mass phenomenon. It primarily operates on a one-to-one basis, from guru to student, or perhaps in a group session. The arrangement is such that an experienced teacher can assess and guide students on their journey, much like how a Mindful Master guided the Fortune 500 CEO I mentioned earlier. That said, if you’re looking for personalized advice, I’m always here to offer insights from my own spiritual and mindfulness journey. A significant issue with the app-centric approach to mindfulness is the presumption that it can be turned into a mass phenomenon. Consequently, the personalized touch gets lost. While there is some degree of personalization with questions like “How are you feeling today?” or “Did you feel better?”, I sometimes sense that it’s primarily to generate stats for pre and post-meditation sessions to report.
Beyond this, communication from the app remains largely one-sided. Every individual is unique — their journey, the ups and downs of their life, their belief system, and their reasons for embarking on the mindfulness path all differ. The app ecosystem fails to address many of these critical factors.
Questionable Scientific Validity
Some of the apps out there are backed by solid research studies. For instance, I know that Headspace is currently involved in approximately 25 different research studies with elite US universities, which is commendable. However, because the business model is so lucrative, many new players have entered the market. Several of these newcomers deploy AI and automated techniques that haven’t been thoroughly vetted. Users need to exercise caution with these apps.
For some, mental health apps might exacerbate issues, potentially intensifying the very symptoms they turn to these apps to alleviate. This can occur, in part, due to heightened awareness of problems without providing the necessary tools to tackle them.
The focus shifts from Mindfulness to maintaining Streaks
Lack of diversity
This point is personal to me because I’ve received feedback of this nature from many participants while researching this topic. Consider this: mental health issues are at an all-time high in America. Certain demographics are affected more than others. Most of the apps, however, are designed and developed in the Silicon Valley area, where the majority of the investors also reside. There’s a pronounced disparity between those who need help with mindfulness and meditation and those creating the solutions. One could argue that this discrepancy exists for many products, but the difference here is that mindfulness delves deeper into your heart and mind, not just your body. You’re not designing a car, an iPad, or a shoe. These apps only skim the surface of one’s true self.
In a lot of cultures, mindfulness, and spirituality can not be, in fact, must not be defined into frameworks, models, visualizations, tools, and techniques. I believe the Insight timer app is a good exception from this lens. However, a lot of apps rely on these aspects, while certainly valuable, but not uniformly applicable.
Too much choice
Many of the apps now resemble an Amazon of options. A true breakthrough will never happen by sampling every type of meditation out there. To genuinely touch the truth, you have to go deep. When you dedicate yourself to one practice and delve into it, only then will you touch the spiritual waters. If you keep digging holes everywhere (or trying new meditations), it will certainly give you experience. You’ll have material to discuss with your friends about your new meditation techniques, but you’ll leave those dinner conversations empty-handed. It’s akin to carrying blocks of gold in your bag: you tell everyone how heavy they are but don’t recognize their value.
App companies adopt this approach because that’s their business model. It’s the world we live in; Netflix must release new content regularly. However, mindfulness isn’t about consuming content. It’s about delving deeply into one practice with more intention than deciding which show to watch on Netflix during dinner.
The Trojan Gamification
This is significant. I have friends who have worked on some of the gamification features that appear in various apps. Their intention was not misguided. The goal is to increase engagement so that users can get the most out of the apps. I would also argue that the higher the engagement, the greater the investment the company receives, leading to a higher valuation. If I see that I am meditating two hours less than my friend across the street, that feels insufficient. So, what will I do? I will start meditating more but with the wrong intention.
Another popular feature is the ‘streak’. People love streaks. They view it as an achievement, a reward, a sense of accomplishment. This makes sense for platforms like Snapchat; I know from my nieces and nephews—they even give their Snapchat passwords to friends to ensure their streaks aren’t broken. However, for something like mindfulness, this approach might prove counterproductive. The focus shifts from personal improvement to maintaining streaks. Even if one starts with the right intention, the subconscious aim becomes surpassing your previous record. While this provides impressive engagement numbers to present to the CEO, the board, and perhaps investors, does it genuinely make a user more mindful?
Mindfulness Apps are not the end goal of your Mindfulness Journey.
Dependency on the Screen
The issue here is that, in today’s day and age, most of our stress, anxiety, and depression come from the 6-inch screen. Now, mindfulness applications reside on that very phone as well. So, from a behavioral science perspective, when you look at the phone, you don’t immediately associate it with mindfulness or peace. Some of the applications have been very effective at nudging you every now and then, and some send timely notifications. Unfortunately, those notifications often get buried under the notifications from Facebook, Instagram, work emails, text messages, Tinder, Hinge, WhatsApp, and so on.
This is truly an ecosystem problem. But it’s a major reason that apps don’t see long-term usage: there are just so many other things you can do with your phone. Users don’t directly associate their phones with peace and mental health.
Summarizing the Problem
So, here we are. In a world where mindfulness is nothing short of any other digital commodity. Curious? Just a swipe and a few clicks away, we encounter superficial engagement tactics, lack of personalization, scientific claims being applied universally, and a plethora of app options dependent on your 6-inch screen. Sure, the very nature of mindfulness through apps leads to many short-term, bite-sized moments of calm and clarity, which satiate an innate human need. But that’s just it: It satisfies a need. And this is not what true mindfulness was ever intended to be — not by the true yogis, Buddhas, Sufis, and Kabbalists who paved the paths to mindfulness through a much deeper, more profound quest for understanding of the Self. You may not be on a religious quest, but nonetheless, mindfulness started as a practice to deepen one’s understanding of the self beyond material pursuits and gains. And, if you haven’t realized by now, that isn’t going to happen with the help of the latest iPhone.
If you are on a quest for understanding yourSelf, Channel your Inner Sage
So where do we go from here?: A Roadmap to a Meaningful Mindfulness Journey
For App companies:
Those of you thinking of paving your way in the mindfulness space: Put the model upside down. it’s not Netflix of Mindfulness. Let’s be transparent about what we have to offer, and let’s focus on individual needs through personalization – think of the customer journey and go deeper. Ask yourself – what can you offer to a person who has been meditating with your app for 1000 hours? Where do they go from there? I don’t believe technology is the complete answer; think from the lens of connecting the person, based on their spiritual beliefs, type of practice, and cultural inclination, to a teacher/guru who can take the person further in this journey. Mindfulness apps are not the end goal of Mindfulness journey, they are just a starting aid :).
The ones on the journey:
My friends, if you’re going to use an app, then here is my advice: Do a little bit of your own research and figure out what works best for you. Start with something small – 5 minutes, 10 minutes a day, and make a routine out of it. Turn it into a habit, and when you open your phone to use the app, do it just for that purpose and not for anything else during that allocated time. Sometimes find a room, a place; call it your sanctuary. Remember, this isn’t like choosing the best streaming platform to watch a movie on while having dinner. When you’ve chosen an app, stick to it – don’t switch to another because all your friends have streaks on the ones that work best for them.
But if you’re someone seeking to learn more about mindfulness, its true potential, and its benefits to your life; if you’re on a quest for understanding yourself, your purpose, and life’s purpose, then you must go deeper and channel your inner sage. Apps introduce you to the concept, the way grade one teachers show you the rules of grammar. Mindfulness is more than a grade-one concept. Sometimes guidance can make a world of difference on your spiritual journey; feel free to reach out if you’re navigating that terrain.
Mind Over Masculinity: The Hidden Mental Health Crisis Among Men
My fellow men and my friends, pay attention. We need to confront the elephant in the room—our mental health. We’ve built fortresses around our emotions, impenetrable even to those who want to help us the most, each brick laid with cultural expectations and age-old myths about what a “real man” should be. It’s high time we had this conversation.
The Emotional Straitjacket
Men are often bound by what I call an “emotional straitjacket,” a restrictive social construct that silences emotional expression. Picture this—you’re at a pub, or at a golf course, surrounded by your friends, but would you dare bring up that you’re struggling with anxiety? I thought not. We keep it light, maybe even share some ‘locker room talk’; we’ll talk sports, technology, business, women, or politics, but emotions? Rarely do we dig deep into our emotions. Ask yourself: why does that feel awkward? Look, this emotional straitjacket does more than just keep us from seeking help when we need it most; In the long run, it also clips our wings, preventing us from soaring to new heights of success.
So, next time you’re with your friends, consider sharing one thing that has been bothering you recently. Test the waters of emotional openness.
The ‘Man-Up’ Syndrome
You’re likely familiar with the phrase ‘Man up.’ This well-intended but often harmful message suggests that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness. However, the reality is that asking for help when you’re struggling emotionally isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s an act of courage and maturity. If the idea of professional therapy seems daunting, remember that these are experts trained to help you navigate emotional complexities. While it’s true that there can be wait times in the healthcare system, you don’t have to navigate this period alone. Your circle of trusted friends, mentors, or support groups can offer interim emotional support. If you can find a ‘match’ 100 miles away by swiping right, surely you can find help when it comes to mental health. Seeking help is not an admission of defeat, but a step towards a fuller, healthier life.
Do this today, Identify a trusted person in your life, whether it’s a friend or family member, and practice showing vulnerability. You can start small—discuss a recent challenge and how it made you feel
Physical Strength vs. Emotional Resilience
I get it, the gym is the modern man’s sanctuary. And who wouldn’t want a ripped physique and washboard abs? Every time you see a bad breakup story on social media, the guy’s friend’s first comment is “See you in the gym in the morning, King”. But consider this—can you benchpress your anxieties and insecurities away? It’s a short-term relief and yes it has its value. Physical strength, though empowering, is only one facet of being a man. It doesn’t automatically bestow emotional resilience. Trust me; I’ve seen men who can deadlift twice their body weight but are paralyzed by the weight of their unspoken fears. The latest stats are startling:
- More than 4 times as many men as women die of suicide in the US
- 40% of men have never spoken to anyone about their mental health
- 20 to 25% of men develop substance abuse in their lifetime.
- At home in Canada, on average, approximately 3,000 men take their own lives each year.
I reject this delusion. Don’t let the societal molds inhibit you, my brothers —luxury cars, ripped abs, glorification of guns and violence, substance-fueled escapades, body count tally—are merely fake facades. True Kingship-true leadership strikes a balance between staying physically fit, emotionally strong, and spiritually fulfilled. Achieving this balance can positively impact all other dimensions of your life—financial stability, fulfilling relationships, career satisfaction, and a harmonious home life.
Mindfulness: A Route to Healing
Mindfulness is not just a buzzword, nor is it a new-age gimmick (although it may seem so because of the commercial wave of advertisements and apps), it’s a scientifically proven age-old way of living. In today’s day and age, it’s a lifesaver. Meditating every morning has turned my life around. In my journey, I have taught this to many and I’ve seen it do wonders for other men too. It teaches you to watch your thoughts without judgment and to face your emotions without letting them overwhelm you. And hey, if you’re unsure how to start, give me a shout. I offer a solid beginner’s guide to mindfulness that could be your gateway to a healthier mind and life.
Try dedicating just 10 minutes today to sit quietly and focus on your breath. Notice how it feels and consider making it a daily habit. If you want to start, you can read here.
Can you benchpress your anxieties and insecurities away?
Rethinking Relationships
The company you keep can make or break your mental health. In my life, I’ve realized that true strength often comes from meaningful relationships. The idea that men should be lone wolves is outdated. Honestly, if you read history deeply, you will know, right from the kings of the past and army generals of the last century, it never was really true. Engage with friends and family, and create a circle where it’s okay to talk about how you’re really doing. Maintain relationships that contribute positively to your mental well-being. There’s power in unity; remember that.
Build trust by caring for those in your circles—work, school, sports clubs, friends, and family. As you show care, others will gradually open up to you, making it easier for you to share as well
Break the Mold, Break the Silence
It’s time to tear down these paralyzing stereotypes that shackle us to outdated notions of masculinity. Let’s embrace a balanced, realistic form of masculinity that includes emotional openness, compassion, and the willingness to seek help. If you’re like me, struggling at times but willing to change, make that decision now. Reach out, break the silence, and let’s initiate change from within. Just as we are influenced by societal norms, we can be the influencers of new, healthier norms. By creating spaces where emotional openness is the rule, not the exception, we can inspire others in our community to join us on this important journey.
One last thing
Before I let you go, I will ask you to write down, what is the one thing that you will do from tomorrow onwards to improve your mental health. Just one thing. Write down in your notebook, phone reminder, or your bathroom mirror. And start doing it. if there is anything I can help with, reach out to me at email@thepiyushgaur.com. I wish you all the best in this journey we call life, my friends.
As a Man, What Can You Start Doing Today to Improve Your Mental Health?
Mental health isn’t a buzzword; it’s a matter of survival in this fast-paced, expectation-laden world. So listen up, gents. You don’t need to do it alone, and today’s as good a day as any to make a change.
Start with Self-Awareness
Let’s face it— we often overlook our mental state, caught up in the facade of toughness, or brush it under the beer cans. Being aware, and then acknowledging our mental landscape is the first real step we can take. This isn’t just feel-good jargon; this is about mastering yourself through mindfulness. I’ve walked this path, and trust me, this is your bedrock. All the beautiful things in life spring from here: status, success, physical fitness, finance, and relationships. If you want to travel from Toronto to New York, you NEED to know where Toronto is first.
Exercise Daily
Let’s face it— we often overlook our mental state, caught up in the facade of toughness, or brush it under the beer cans. Being aware, and then acknowledging our mental landscape is the first real step we can take. This isn’t just feel-good jargon; this is about mastering yourself through mindfulness. I’ve walked this path, and trust me, this is your bedrock. All the beautiful things in life spring from here: status, success, physical fitness, finance, and relationships. If you want to travel from Toronto to New York, you NEED to where Toronto is first.
Mindful Eating
Food isn’t just fuel; it’s the very stuff that constructs you, cell by cell. I’ve noticed the difference clean eating has made in my focus, my mood, and even my confidence. For example, Drinking a liter of water first thing in the morning. A well-fed man is not just physically robust but mentally sharp. Make every meal count. Have vegetarian food at least once a week, pick Thursday. An elephant is vegetarian for all seven days a week but hey it’s the strongest, even the pride of lions of depression, and stress think two times before attacking an elephant.
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Practice Mindfulness
Ever tried to navigate a ship through a storm without a compass? That’s you, diving into the daily grind without a mindfulness practice. Look, Mindfulness is as scientific as the laws of thermodynamics. It is a practical skill, starting with simple techniques like breathing, being a spectator to your thoughts, watching a line of birds flying in the sky, sitting next to a river and seeing it flow by, or a series of black clouds floating in the sky, just watch on the sky of your mind the clouds of thoughts to flow by. Don’t interrupt, neither judge just be. Taking a mindful walk in nature can substantially improve mental health as well but make it a routine. If the idea seems foreign, I’ve got your back. My beginner’s guide to mindfulness has been a life-changer for many men who thought meditation wasn’t for them.
Build Meaningful Relationships
Isolation is a silent killer among men. Look, to me, this is one of the most important criteria that has fallen away in today’s society. In this society that often mocks vulnerability, it’s high time we shift the narrative. My experience says, that if you have meaningful relationships with people around you, Mental Health issues won’t even be there. Surround yourself with a brotherhood that enriches you, men who understand the grit and grind but also the emotional touchstones. Problems in life won’t go away but your mental Hull will be strong to navigate the rough waters. Brotherhood isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s your life vest..
Get Enough Sleep
Men, lack of sleep is the stealth bomber of mental health. This is not negotiable. Seven to eight hours of quality sleep is a game-changer. If you are an athlete, half the game is won if you sleep well, if you are in the professional setting half the project is yours if you get deep sleep. If the sandman eludes you, a little gratitude meditation before bed helps. Try it; all the suggestions in the article are more powerful than depending on outside supplements or agents.
Seek Professional Help
Look, even the strongest warriors had their advisors and healers. Therapy isn’t unmanly; ignoring your issues is. And if you think therapy alone won’t cut it, I offer a Holistic engineering approach that seamlessly complements traditional treatments. You’re not less of a man for seeking help; you’re more of one for taking action.
Consistency is Key
Here’s the thing, my friends—mental health is not a one-off. It’s a full-time job, and you’re the boss of it. Don’t like how things are going? Change it. Know It’s not a fast break; it’s a full-court game
Gentlemen, the toughest mountains yield the most exhilarating views. As someone who’s been there, let me tell you, the view is worth it. You’re not just doing this for yourself; you’re setting a precedent for every man who’s finding it tough to keep going. Start today, and you’re already one step closer to a more balanced, healthier you, setting an example for your partner, brotherhood, kids, and your family.
From Boardrooms to Bedtime Stories: The Lotus Touch of Mindful Mothers
We live in an era where relentless ambition and perfection, physically or emotionally, are glorified. Mothers often find themselves grappling with the invisible weight of expectations. This internal struggle oscillates between battling self-doubt and questioning, “Am I doing enough?”. If you’re a mother feeling this tug, let nature’s spirituality of the lotus serve as your guiding light, reminding you of your immense strength, resilience, and unparalleled value.
The Seed
When a lotus seed first finds itself under layers of mud, it doesn’t resist; it trusts. Trusts the nature that has endowed it with this responsibility. Similarly, as you embarked on motherhood, you might’ve felt submerged—under advice, societal standards, and personal aspirations. Amid these overwhelming voices, there’s profound wisdom in pausing and embracing mindfulness. By trusting the process and understanding that each challenge is an opportunity for growth, you tap into an inner reservoir of strength. Every sleepless night, every tough decision stands as a testament to a mother’s unwavering spirit. This strength is not always evident, but it’s always present—right within you.
The Rising
The lotus doesn’t merely grow; it rises, cutting through the mud, undeterred by the surrounding murkiness. Every working mother, battling deadlines and ensuring her child’s lunchbox is packed with love, embodies this perseverance. When professional commitments weigh heavily, and the heart pulls toward home, it’s essential to sit in mindfulness meditation and be washed by Lotus’s journey; one of triumphant, dignified, and purposeful.
But here’s an insight that the world often overlooks: the very challenges that a mother navigates daily equip her with holistic leadership skills. Juggling diverse roles, prioritizing tasks, managing time, showing empathy, making swift yet effective decisions, and constantly adapting — these are not just the hallmarks of motherhood but of exceptional leadership. When you connect with yourself, you will realize that not only do you gift the world inspiration, purpose, and life, but you also bring forth a brand of leadership that’s nurtured by both heart and mind. The world’s chaos existed long before you, and it will persist after we are gone, but mothers, as leaders, have the power to influence, inspire, and leave indelible marks.
Blooms: Milestones and Memories
Each day you conquer, each challenge you metamorphose into an opportunity, you bloom. Whether it’s witnessing your child stand tall against bullying or clinching a deal at work despite the odds—you are crafting a legacy. These aren’t mere milestones; they are symbols of a warrior’s spirit. As you walk this path, others follow, inspired by your mindful steps. Cherish these moments, understanding that your journey inspires not only your family but the entire modern civilization. It’s like when you walk you make a mark for a mighty river of civilization to flow after your footsteps.
The Balance
In its full glory, the lotus stands radiant, unaffected by the mud below. Your journey, dear mother, mirrors this brilliance. While balancing boardrooms and bedtime stories, you create harmonies, each distinct yet collectively resonating with unparalleled meaning. In moments of doubt, engage in brief mindfulness meditation. The daily practice serves as a reminder that your myriad roles don’t dilute your essence but amplify it. Your adaptability, and your ability to comfort and command, serve as a beacon of inspiration for many.
Your Wisdom to the World
As petals fall and new lotuses prepare to bloom, the cycle of life and wisdom persists. Your experiences, your battles, and your triumphs are the wisdom you bequeath. The stories you share with the little ones and the values you impart to your family shape not only your child but ripple through traditions and cultures. Mindful parenting, rooted in authenticity, sends forth waves of positive change.
A Heartfelt Ode to Every Mother
In life’s intricate dance, where roles perpetually shift and challenges arise, mothers remain unwavering, reminiscent of the lotus in full bloom—graceful, robust, and awe-inspiring. If ever you question your worth or feel dwarfed by challenges, oh dear mother, recall the lotus and its spiritual journey—a reflection of yours, highlighting strength, resilience, and love.
They say a mother’s stature is next only to divinity. A mother’s blessings, they believe, surpass the boons of all the Gods combined. Even the ancient Sages have bowed down to Mothers. With every step you take, and every choice you make, understand that you’re not merely living; you’re sculpting a life and legacy and in this journey, the strength of all the sages, and angels is right in you.
Guidance on your Lotus Journey:
While the lotus symbolizes the magnificent journey of every mother, sometimes the muddy waters can get overwhelming. It’s in these times that an understanding voice can make a world of difference.
As someone raised by three generations of women, myself deeply immersed in this dance of life and its myriad roles, I’ve woven my personal experiences with ancient wisdom, creating a sanctuary of understanding and support. If you ever feel the need for a touchstone amidst the chaos, or simply someone to reflect with, know that I’m here.
My commitment as a modern-day sage is to serve as a bridge, helping you connect more deeply with your inner lotus, balancing boardrooms and lullabies with grace. Together, we can navigate the streams of life, ensuring you bloom radiantly and inspire others in the process.
Feel free to reach out, “Book a Call” and navigate this journey with guidance.
How pure intellect is cremating our hearts?
Growing up in a very spiritual family, I used to see everyone around me reading scriptures on a daily basis. I am a student of engineering; so once I have studied, let’s say III year subjects, studying them over and over again will be quite foolish now, isn’t it? But this foolishness happened all around, actually daily. This is where I think science and pure logic fail humanity. There is a secret here, a secret that is beyond science and intellect to grasp. The Secret of the unknown, the secret of infinity, the secret of there is something more.
Science will come to us and dissect the flower completely and will tell us all its anatomy. It will claim that it knows everything about the flower now, which is fairly true. But on the other hand, a child will simply be curious about the flower the whole day, a poet will be able to compare it to its beloved, a husband will smile giving it to the wife, and a devotee will pour her entire devotion while offering it to the lord. The study of anatomy will go only deeper in one direction, today it is able to go to the subatomic particles or even to quarks, and maybe tomorrow it is able to go a few layers deeper. All it does it, pushes the question one step back and then looks for the answer. The heart looks at the flower and gets lost in the mesmerizing beauty of it. And I can not stop myself from saying “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”; Science dissects beauty without really knowing the beholder.
In Sanskrit, there is a specific word for reading the scripture. It is called “doing the Path”. So you don’t read the scripture, you do their path. What it means, every time you read a story of Krishna or Christ, there appears to be a new meaning, new angle, a new depth. It’s like new every time you read it. In the world of science, it is the polar opposite, for example, a Pythagorean theorem results in the same every time. If you don’t believe me, try it doing it over the long weekend, it will not change. The answer will be the same on Friday and Monday, or anything other day.
Intellect has its place, its importance. I am able to write this article and you are reading it somewhere on the internet because of intellect. But think of it this way, there are three mountains, one you can know, one you can partially know, and the third is beyond. Another way to look at it is anything of this material world, science is there for rescue – all the humans, the things of the humans all this is the first mountain. The second mountain is something that is partially beyond the material world – here comes all the great saints, prophets, and avatars, who came among us but also have touched the surface of the truth, an intellectual mind struggles with it. Intellect can grasp some of it and the rest it disregards. It is this deeper mystery that fleets in the beauty of flowers, in the meaning of scriptures, in the bells of the Church, in the smile of a baby, in the ayats of the Quran, or dips in the holy water. The third mountain is completely beyond, one needs to break the time, and space continuum understood by intellect to experience the third mountain. One needs to become the mountain to experience it.
Learn, respect, and assimilate Science, intellect, and logical thinking. But, my friends, I tell you this, fall in love with the beauty of this world, for all the intellect of this earth, the Chat GPTs, and the AI will fall short of this experience. All the Vedas, Upanishads, and all the scientific literature feel meaningless in front of Krishna playing flute by the Ganges or holding the hand of Christ or when the mother stays up for the baby the whole night. This is being human. Let the heart live with the intellect.
What is the best online meditation service?
There are approximately 2500 online meditation services available, each with its own unique features and benefits. At a high level, there are a number of ways one could categorize these services. Below is what makes sense to me to dissect this service industry:
- Western and Eastern services
- Religious inclined services
- Platform-based communities
- Personality based services
- Research-based services
The best online meditation service for you ultimately depends on your preferences, unique journey, and specific needs. Here are the categories in detail.
1. Western and Eastern:
Remember that purpose of most of the online services is very similar. The only difference between Platforms is the targeted customers and mediation techniques and practices.
a) Western Lens: Medito, Smiling Mind, the mindfulness app, Headspace, and Calm, are apps that capture most of the market in the West. Most of the apps have greatly simplified the UI, which is very pleasing to the eyes and easy to navigate. Calm and Headspace have been two of the most successful apps in the last 7 years. Depending on how you define the success; in this case the number of downloads, ratings, online reviews, and awards.
b) Eastern Lens: Satva, Art of Living, Patanjali and Dhyana. These services have elements of Eastern philosophies. Remember the concept of meditation rooted in the Eastern philosophies of Yoga, Vedic Culture, Buddhism, Jainism, and Sikhism. These apps also include mystic elements, festivals, and rites and rituals as a comprehensive offering. Another important point to consider is that Eastern philosophies, such as Raja yoga or the practice of Dhyana in Buddhism, outline a path from an ordinary human to divine realization. It involves not only dedicating one or two hours of daily meditation but adopting a complete lifestyle aimed at uncovering the inherent divinity within oneself. It’s worth noting that sometimes online resources may offer a simplified or diluted version of these teachings.
2. Religious based:
a). Amen is an excellent example of a religious-based app. The app roots in Christian philosophy. It has a variety of meditations, daily worship, and scripture readings. It also has a community element called groups. Perfect who wants to meditate and believes meditation is not a foreign idea or philosophy. Abide, Pray.com, and Soultime are other options that offer a range of guided meditations, stories, and Bible-based reflections.
b). Muslim Pro is another app that roots in Islamic tradition. It offers features such as prayer times and Qibla direction. Muslim Pro also includes a meditation feature called “Tasbih Counter.” This feature allows users to engage in a form of Islamic meditation by reciting specific phrases or names of Allah while keeping count using a digital tasbih. Ruqyah are a few other options for you if you are interested. Dhikr and Dua as the name suggest it is focused on prayers and remembering god, this again is another meditative path. Quranic is mostly a Quran app, which is beautiful in its own way, but also has a section called Reflection that encourages mindfulness and meditation.
c). Jewish Meditation: Jewish Meditation is an app developed by the Institute for Jewish Spirituality. It offers a variety of guided meditations and contemplative practices inspired by Jewish teachings and traditions. The app includes meditations for different purposes, such as mindfulness, gratitude, and inner peace. A few others are, the Jewish Mindfulness Center of St. Louis and Sefaira
3. Personality-based meditation services
There are some meditation teachers who either started the journey of the digital world early on and/or introduced meditation to a certain geography. Then there are other teachers who developed certain meditation practices either by learning from a guru, a Spiritual awakening, or research. They all have their unique value proposition, and depending on where you are in your journey and what your beliefs are you will find yourself gravitating towards one or the other. Below is the list in no particular order. Deepak Chopra, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Sadhguru, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, Transcendental Meditation (Mahesh Yogi), Kriya Yoga (Yogananda Paramhansa), Ekhart-Tolle are a few names with concrete and credible footprint.
There are also a variety of local & regional meditation practitioners each with their own unique message. If your preference is to have someone guide you in a personalized, one on one manner, this may be what you are looking for to open you up to the world of meditation. Also, I have been teaching holistic lifestyle for about 16 years with documented benefits of RHR going down, increased VO2 max, better sleep, and less anxiety and stress, impacting thousands of lives both professionally and professionally. Meditation and mindfulness is a very important part of it. I will be happy to help should you need any guidance.
4. Platform-based communities
There are many platforms where community leaders, meditation teachers and influencers run meditation services. You can find many rooms on Clubhouse, and many servers on Discord that focus on meditation and mindfulness. On the other hand, Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook are other places where people have groups and channels where meditation is provided. Sometimes, these services are free and sometimes at a cost. Insight Timer is an app that brings teachers from all backgrounds and walks of life to its platforms. You can pick and choose what fits your taste, style and where you are in the journey of mindfulness. In my experience, I have seen some genuine people/communities sincerely trying to share and learn.
5. Research-based meditation services
Headspace, Calm, 10% Happier, and Aura are a few examples where meditation sessions are research-backed. Sri Sri’s Sudharshan Kriya and Sadhguru’s meditation is also has been extensively studied by the likes of Harvard with proven physiological and mental benefits. Generally, these companies have tie-ups with universities (or in-house) where different meditation techniques are studied and scientifically researched. Last, when I checked I remember Headspace had about 25 different research studies going on with various universities. And when the positive outcome is concluded they are launched for the general population.
In the end, I would like to add, there is a gap in the ecosystem for people who would like to go deeper in the journey. These apps are designed (or overtime they got developed this way) for the broad interest in meditation. But unfortunately they leave people, who want to advance in their journey, hanging. In my last one year of research I haven’t found a many people who started using the apps, and continue to use it. Over 4 to 6 months on an average, customers fall off. On the other hand, if you are starting your journey or want to try various different paths, I will highly recommend exploring the features and trial versions of these apps to see which one resonates with you the most. Almost all the services provide you with a free trial to try one or two sounds, chantings, stories, journeys, or meditations. Keep in mind that personal preferences and compatibility with the teaching style, interface, and available content are essential factors in choosing the best online meditation service for you. If you are confused, and still need help, please reach out email@thepiyushgaur.com. I will be happy to help. I wish you all the very best in your journey.
Alone with the New Apple: A Holistic Perspective on VisionPro
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It was in Edinburgh, just after university, where I had my first internship at a company called SFX. During the lunch break, I was telling everyone about how cool my new iPod Nano is. Being a product person from the heart, I have always admired how Apple products have a sense of ‘knowing you’. At the time, I didn’t even know much about product management or user design, experience, etc. But I was very impressed by the simplicity of use, and its intuitiveness. It got the work done and had a sense of privilege using it. As a student, that was the only Apple product I could afford and I surely was enjoying/bragging about it.
Years down the line, spending time in the hi-tech industry, and more importantly observing society change, I have come to understand many of these innovations have not done justice to the holistic ‘customer journey’. A typical customer journey is, for example, the customer gets to a website or an app, browsing to purchase a product/service, selects one to put in the cart, and then goes through the checkout and purchases it. From a holistic perspective, we should question how the customer was feeling prior to arriving at the app, during the in-app journey, after signing out, and then the implication of that service or product that the customer purchased? Maybe 20 years ago, it didn’t matter so much, but today when these innovations are unintentional enablers, in the guise of convenience, independence, and individuality, in creating physical distance among friends and families, a good product manager will think of it.
Of course, a healthy argument can be made that it is none of my business or that it’s up to the users. Any product company might say that, and this will not be invalid. If someone harms themselves after seeing their team lose a football match on TSN, it is not the fault of TSN. I submit to this argument. But there is something bigger at play here. Since the arrival of various handheld technologies, social media, and the plethora of apps, mental health issues are on the rise at an unprecedented rate. Loneliness is huge in today’s day and age. Some Anecdotes:
- South Korea is offering isolated young people $500 a month to get them to leave their homes and reconnect with society.
- Britain has had a loneliness minister in the Government from pre-pandemic times.
- NYTimes reported at any moment, about one out of every two Americans is experiencing measurable levels of loneliness. This includes introverts and extroverts, rich and poor, and younger and older Americans.
On the technical innovation scale of Vision Pro, I will give full marks to Apple Leadership.
- Eye coordination with hand gestures, topped with Siri integration, will lead to a very smooth user experience. This is one thing that other players in the industry never are able to take advantage of – the ecosystem.
- The see-through headsets, where you can still talk to someone while you have them on.
- Digital Avatars. Yes, it looks very realistic. If you remember Animojis World. Clearly, they were working on this for quite some time.
- A good AR implementation with real-world awareness.
- 4k resolution for each eye. and 3D will look proper 3D with surround sound for your ears. Amazing.
What I don’t know yet.
- How heavy is the headset?
- How much fatigue will it cause? Physical head and neck fatigue and also eye strain. When I used AR Glasses from North, a company purchased by Google later on, had a huge eye fatigue. Similarly, when I used Oculus a few years ago, it was clunky, not comfortable to use, and pixelated.
Look, having said all this, as I said above, Apple is good at product execution. I am sure, purely from the product innovation and implementation, they have done a great job and are leading the way.
But in what direction?
A direction that has caused serious damage to people. Now Apple created a portal (Vision Pro) through which all the apps and services, with functions and features that are well-researched on addiction, gamification, performative magic, social engineering, persuasive design, and behavioral economics will start coming through.
It starts to become dark/questioning when the goal of these features is to keep you in the app for as long as possible. And now, with Vision Pro, the persuasion will be exponentially high because of the Convenience and Pleasure factor.
I see two ways forward. Maybe three, let’s see.
- Apple Leadership starts coming out with products and features that ‘actually’ does something for loneliness.
- All the apps and functionalities that are designed for Vision Pro, pass through some sort of ‘Mindfulness by Design’ framework. So it’s not an afterthought but from the get-go.
- Users themselves get smart and are able to minimize the time and usage of these products. So they are the masters of it and not the other way around. We know this hasn’t worked so far.
I would love to know your thoughts. What do you think will be the impact of a device like this in society? And what can be done to mitigate that?
From the Bedroom to the Boardroom: How Quality Sleep Shapes Successful Leaders
In one of my previous companies, one day, all the employees received an email from HR. This was regarding the Journey of one of the Senior Executives, who has just been promoted to C-Suite. In the email, the other executives’ verbatims were mentioned. One clear theme that emerged was how this person is able to work almost 24 hours a day. I very vividly remember someone had said, “he was out with us till 4 in the morning; I barely made it to the 8 am meeting but he was already ready with the presentation ready and good to go”. Although at the time Sleep hadn’t become such a big issue as it is now, I felt there was something off with the example and pitch, and tone. I grew up learning your body is a temple, a balanced diet, and a well-rested mind is much more productive.
We live in a world that glamorizes the “hustle” culture, the value of quality sleep is often undervalued, if not entirely overlooked. However, sleep’s undeniable influence on leadership abilities has begun to break through research papers and practical examples. Sleep, as it turns out, is not just a biological necessity but a significant ingredient in the recipe for successful leadership.
When we think of successful leaders, we often picture individuals with relentless energy, boundless creativity, and unshakeable resilience. While these qualities are indeed cornerstones of effective leadership, they are intrinsically linked to one often underestimated, yet crucial, factor— Good Quality Sleep. Sleep has the power to shape successful leaders, from the bedroom to the boardroom.
The Sleep-Leadership Connection
The first step towards understanding the connection between sleep and leadership is recognizing that sleep isn’t merely a passive state of rest. It’s an active period of rejuvenation for our bodies and minds. to A good night’s sleep is integral to Cognitive functioning, Memory consolidation, Emotional Regulation, and Creativity—elements that are crucial to leadership.
In a 2017 McKinsey survey, 43% of leaders reported not getting enough sleep at least four nights a week. McKinsey also concluded that leaders who get adequate sleep tend to be significantly more effective in their roles, meaning taking the right decisions, progressing in their careers, and setting leadership examples for the team and organization. This isn’t surprising when you consider that sleep deprivation negatively impacts cognitive functions such as decision-making, emotional intelligence, and problem-solving, key competencies in leadership.
Sleep and Decision Making
One of the biggest elements in Leadership is making the decision. The higher up you go, the more complex the situations get. And more often than not, these are not technical problems; these require probability, logic, people skills, navigating uncertainty, and time crunch. Numerous studies have demonstrated that sleep deprivation significantly slows the area of the brain that helps in the above dimensions. It impairs our ability to assess situations accurately, calculate risks, consider the long-term implications of our actions, and deal with uncertainty.
On the other hand, a good night’s sleep not only helps replenish our mental stamina but also provides a clearer perspective on the challenges at hand. It gives us the mental clarity to weigh our options, foresee the consequences of our actions, and make decisions that drive our teams and organizations forward.
Sleep and Creativity
Creativity is another important quality that leaders need to navigate the complexities of the modern business world. It’s what drives innovation, helps solve complex problems, and fosters a culture of continuous improvement. Research suggests that REM sleep—the deep, dream-filled phase of our sleep cycle—plays a significant role in boosting creativity.
During REM sleep, our brains are highly active, processing information from the day, making sense, forming neural connections, and consolidating memories. This period of rest allows our minds to make unusual and abstract connections that might not be possible in our waking hours, thereby nurturing our creative capacities.
Sleep and Emotional Intelligence
Effective leadership isn’t just about making good decisions and coming up with creative solutions. If you are the top leader in your company, community, or what have you, people management is 80% of the task. People management means understanding their emotions, priorities, skill sets, and dynamics among them and navigating appropriately. Studies show that lack of sleep can make us more susceptible to negative emotions like stress, anxiety, and frustration, hindering our ability to connect with others on an emotional level.
Conversely, quality sleep equips us with greater emotional resilience. Well-rested leaders are more likely to exhibit empathy, maintain composure in stressful situations, and build stronger relationships—traits that inspire trust and respect among their teams.
In conclusion, one certain path to successful leadership starts in the unlikeliest of places—your bedroom. A good night’s sleep is more than a biological necessity; it’s a strategic tool for becoming a better leader. So, the question arises how to sleep better? If you are a student or a young professional I will highly recommend you read “How to sleep better”, an article I wrote some time back. If you are a leader, I have developed a set of unique techniques, which I will be happy to share. In the end, remember, every moment of Good Sleep is a step toward becoming a more effective leader, from the Bedroom to the Boardroom.
How can you help children meditate without them losing interest?
Children, you tell them something to do, pretty much guaranteed, they will do the opposite. And even if they do as you ask, it’s only a matter of seconds, they will move on to the next stuff. Honestly, this is okay. actually, you want this; this is what really means to be children. But meditation is a gift that you want them to learn. It is more important than giving them a holiday ticket to Paris, a Mustang, or anything like that. Meditation will stay and guide them entire their life. So what to do? Below are a few things that are proven to help:
- Don’t tell them the moon is shining; show them the glint of light on broken glass: Don’t tell them to do meditation. Do it WITH them. It takes 10 minutes. Start there. Do it with them.
- Kids are outward-focused, so make a small ritual out of it: Fix a place in the house. Fix a time. burn some candles or light some incense sticks, and get some plants or meditation pillows. And do it together.
- Keep it short: Children have shorter attention spans than adults, so it’s best to keep meditation sessions short and simple. Start with just a few minutes and gradually increase the time as they become more comfortable with the practice.
- Start with Stories: Maybe engage them first with the stories. Give them 5 to 7 minutes of stories, with meditation music in the background, and then do meditation with them for 10 minutes. Stories transport the soul, they have the power of narration. Do that and then start the meditation.
- Use props: Children may be more engaged in meditation if they have a special object or prop to focus on. For example, you could have them hold a small stuffed animal or a special rock while they meditate. If they are older (12 years or older), they can focus on the flame of the candle. Breathe in, hold, breathe out. Keep the candle at chest height at about 3 feet of distance.
- Be consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to meditation. Try to establish a regular meditation routine with your child, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. This will help them develop the habit and see the benefits of meditation over time
I wish you all the very best in giving your children the best gift of their life.
Is Meditation or Mindfulness Practise Suitable for Teens?
Meditation is when you sit quietly, in the stillness, and disconnect from the ever-changing craziness of the world. And when you come back you are more centered, have clarity of thoughts, able to see thru what is important to focus your energies on and what is not. It is a practice that is around for thousands of years. However, many people wonder if meditation is suitable for teenagers. The answer is yes; a big Yes. It is not only suitable but also needed for today’s teens. Meditation brings along a plethora of benefits.
Never before in history Parents and teenagers have been so disconnected. Call it technology, busy schedules, overburden on individuality, choice overload, or a cut-throat capitalistic environment, Meditation is that silver bullet that connects teenagers with their deeper Selves and not futile comparisons to tik-tok models or peer groups.
The teenage years are a time of immense change and growth, both physically and mentally. If instilled, the habit of meditation at this age, it will help them entire their lives. Teenagers often face a lot of pressure, whether it is from academic expectations, social pressure, or simply figuring out who they are as individuals. Meditation can help teenagers cope with these pressures and navigate the challenges that come with this phase of life. Research has shown that meditation can improve attention, focus, and concentration, which are essential skills for academic success. Additionally, it can help teenagers manage stress and anxiety, which can have a significant impact on their mental health. Meditation has been shown to reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety and improve overall well-being.
Meditation can also improve emotional regulation, which is particularly important during the teenage years when emotions can be intense and unpredictable. By practicing meditation, teenagers can learn to identify and manage their emotions in a healthy way, reducing the risk of impulsive behaviors or other negative outcomes.
If you are above 12 start meditating; and parents, teachers, and caregivers should encourage teenagers to give it a try. Esp for parents, do it with them. 10 minutes a day and you will see you are connecting with your child on a much deeper level. By helping to incorporate meditation into their daily routine, parents and teachers will lay the foundation for a healthier, more balanced life